5 Ways To Keep Your Passion Alive

eodera
May 4, 2021
#lifecoach, leadership, passion, productivity, self development, selfcare

Maintaining your passion can be a FRAGILE process when you start.

Do not run before you can walk.

What do most babies do? They start by crawling, then the totter as they take their first step, and then, the finally start to walk once they have balance.

Ask yourself: “How Can I Keep My passion Alive, especially during these troubled times?”

Here are 5 Ways To Keep Your Passion Alive

START WHERE YOU ARE WITH THE TOOLS THAT YOU HAVE – Are There People Around you Who Would Appreciate What You Do? What about shops? How about social media? Thank you Milly Owesi, for sharing your thoughts about using social media! This way you will reach a lot more people.

2. LEAN EXISTENCE – GET RID OF WHAT YOU DO NOT NEED

Ladies have lots of shoes, clothes, that don’t fit you. Men have t-shirts, first suit they ever wore to work, knick knacks from some games, or that briefcase that you don’t use anyway.

And then there are those who have the old TV/radio that was overtaken by time; that old computer, which you keep hoping your son or daughter will use, then, as it turns out, it becomes obsolete with the arrival of the smart phone.

Divide them into what you will give away, what you can sell to raise some money towards your kitty, and what you can really keep to wear.

3. WORK ON SOMETHING ELSE TO GET WHAT YOU WANT

Remember Mary from our last session? Mary worked part time at a local store and earned enough to buy her paint and brushes materials for her art.

She also contacted local printers and asked for their off-cuts from other jobs to use for her cards.

4. USE WHAT YOU HAVE

My sister Becky loves to bake, and she makes the most amazing cakes. Our family and friends are always looking forward to their birthday cakes: they are so moist and tasty. But Becky only bakes when there is a family occasion, which means that her oven is often under-utilised.

I would estimate that, with her equipment and she would be able to share her amazing gift.

5. LOOK AROUND YOU – AND TAKE THE FIRST STEP, YES, I KNOW IT’S HARD, BUT DO IT. IN A FEW MONTHS, WHEN YOU LOOK BACK, YOU WILL BE AMAZED AND WHAT YOU HAVE ACHIEVED, BECAUSE

YOU ARE LIVING YOUR PASSION!

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Leadership

Shell Shocked: Part 1

eodera
March 5, 2021
#development, #femalecoach, #lessons, #resilience, #tennisskills, leadership

The Making of a Leader
By liz odera

Dominique was very excited that first afternoon, as she signed in and went on to the locker room to prepare for her first tennis session at her new job. Dominique noticed that there was only one other female coach listed on the club noticeboard amongst the 14 coaches at the club. She had arrived early and had the advantage to watching everyone at work, from the clients at different ages and levels of play, and met the other coaches as they confidently carried on with their instructions. She was introduced to some of them by the Head Professional as they left the court, and they seemed pleasant enough. but she felt ready, to take on her role as a professionally certified coach, and confidently stepped onto the court, together with two male coaches to run a session for Academy 1 players. These were 12 intermediate level kids of 7-10 years old, who had grown through the club system. Immediately after the warm ups, James, the lead coach, separated the children into groups under each coach, and the pre-planned programming began.

Dominique was accused of insubordination….

The instructions were explicit, requiring the coaches to work on preparing the players for Team Tennis that would begin in two weeks. Dominique quickly noticed that the interest of the children often flagged during session, unless there was a fun game session on, which included “King of the Court” and other little fun court activities. Dominique’s group of 4 kids, Daniel, Josephine, Allya and Habib, were of varying abilities: though they all agreed to play tournaments, they were unable to keep scores consistently, and could not hold a rally count of more than 6 from the baseline. In addition, only one child, Daniel had a consistent overhead serve, while the other three could barely toss the ball. Puzzled, she looked across at the other courts and noticed that the adjacent court had definitely stronger players, while the far court had players of mixed ability like hers, and quickly realized that this was going to be her first test as a coach at the club.

Dominique noticed that they were all using green balls, and quickly reached out for a basket of orange balls and used them for the remaining part of the session. She also made adjustments to the session plan as she went along, to cater for the level of the majority of the children, making sure that they had fun and they worked. By the end of the session, all the kids were smiling, and, as she escorted them from the court, she met their parents briefly and introduced herself, giving a word of encouragement, and, when they were leaving, a couple of parents smiled and waved at her.

That evening, she got a call from the Head Pro, requesting that she attend a meeting at the club, at 9.00 a.m. the next morning. He would not say what it was about, but asked that she keep time, as the day’s schedule would be quite busy. Dominique arrived a few minutes early, and was shown into the Head Pro’s office, where she found James also seated. She smiled at said a polite “hallo”, but James ignored her, staring at an object at the end of the room.

The next 20 minutes was a really big shock for Dominique. She was accused of being insubordinate by not following the instructions for the tennis session as planned, and was expected to immediately apologize. She was expected, in future, to ask permission before making any adjustments. Dominique tried to explain her reasons, but the meeting was cut short because the Head Pro had a management meeting scheduled.

Dominique left the office that day shell shocked, and continued the rest of that month, following every session plan as written to minute detail, even when she knew that there were areas that did not work. She felt frustrated, but didn’t want to lose her job: she had just received her first pay-check and the money was good. However, she was very unhappy and felt that perhaps it was time to take some action.

What do you think went wrong and how would you advise Dominique?

(photo by pexels-philip-justin-mamelic-4469778)

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Karen’s Success Story

eodera
July 7, 2020
adding value, attitude, learning, self development, volunteering

The right attitude, willingness to learn and volunteering your time, can open unique opportunities.

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Leadership, Uncategorized

3 Simple Actions For The Close of 2017

eodera
December 30, 2017

As we start the countdown to the 1st of 2018, many of us, no matter our current circumstances, are hoping for positive (even miraculous) change. We will be making new year resolutions, but over 78% sadly, will not be sustained by the end of January. So, how else cold we look at the new year? Here are three suggestions of actions that will help you face 2018 with renewed hope:

Be grateful

Gratitude always lends a feeling of understanding one’s state, and how much better it is than it could have been. Look around, and you will find areas of your life, environment, friendships, mentors, clients and family, for which you could be grateful. How about sending a thoughtful note? Just say “Thank You”. It leaves you with a feeling of hope, and makes someone really happy.

Keep a promise

If you are anything like me, you probably have many targets of that you wish to accomplish, and millions of deadlines to cover for each! You would have an organiser that sends you reminders, and a planner that lets you know how far you have progressed towards each subset of subset of each goal! It sounds great, but by mid year, you find yourself mired in chains of activities, and no breaks. How about taking up one real promise to yourself, and walk with it into the new year?

Listen and learn

There’s nothing more dangerous than thinking that you know all the answers. Even when you are an expert, actually, especially when you “believe” that you are an expert! This holiday season gives you the rare opportunity to share with people, many of them strangers. Be curious, open your mind, ask questions, and listen. You will be amazed at how much you can pick up and use to blend into your skills and improve your life.

Have an awesome weekend and happy 2018!!

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Leadership, Management

D For DISCIPLINE

eodera
November 8, 2017
#coach, #development #sporteanddev, #lifecoach, #lizodera1, #pmp #lizodera1, #strategic, leadership, responsibility

When I got my first major leadership position, I was excited about making an impact. I was put in charge of a staff of 27 members, many who had more on the job experience than my own age. I tried my best to build teamwork, prepare schedules that would suit individual strengths and programmed in individual and group training. Our performance shot up steadily and by the end of the second year, other competing units began to sit up and take notice. But even then something else was happening that would ultimately show me how much success can be dangerous to the leader.

In an effort to keep up the steady improvement in performance, I attended various seminars, where I learnt how important it was to “know your staff individually”. I took it very seriously, and deliberately assigned time to meet each member of staff regularly. I felt pleased when, after some time, I would be invited to special family activities: kids’ graduations, christenings, and birthday parties. A couple of the senior staff members, Samuel and Jonah, and I often met as members of the same club, and played football together. However, after a while, I began to notice that Samuel was coming to work increasingly late, sometimes by as much as 2 hours, while Jonah kept rarely submitted his weekly report by the Friday deadline, instead shifting it to late Mondays or Tuesdays. I requested for change verbally and eventually through a memo. They came to my office, apologized, and soon went make to their bad habits. It was beginning to affect the behavior of the rest of the staff.

Then three weeks later, for reasons that no one could gather, Samuel and Jonah could never agree on anything. I tried to bring them together, mistakenly thinking that I could broker a truce and, eventually hold the already fractured staff together. That was the biggest mistake I ever made. If I mentioned that one person was right, the other would take it that l was taking unfair sides and this would lead to resentment. There was no peace.

Eventually, both Jonah and Samuel quit their jobs in a huff and taking some of their supporters with them. I was distraught. Our results plunged for the first two quarters of the year, and it looked like the rest of the year was going to be disastrous.

I learned on valuable lesson: I may have self-discipline, but I had failed to instill discipline amongst my staff consistently, in an effort to be accepted. The fact that staff was now more familiar with me should not have meant that they could act in the disrespectful manner that they had adopted. I had lost the ability to control them.

During the next three months, I engaged new senior staff, and helped them engage the lower cadre officers for their respective sections. I also set new conditions and trained all staff on their doe of conduct. By the end of the year, we succeeded in beating our targets, and once again our unit topped the performance charts.

Here are some of lessons about discipline and leadership:

Set up golden rules of behavior and stick to them. These rules will often stem from your organizations Code of Conduct or similar documents.
Do not operate under two separate rules where you have discipline, yet your staff can get away with breaking expected code of behavior. Make it a practice to train your staff and then ensure that they know that you will act to discipline poor behavior. Take action immediately a staff member fails to follow the required ethic of behavior. This ensures consistent acceptable behavior modification.
As a leader, you always have the option to drop undisciplined staff, and seek support to recruit and train new members. Even when you do not have direct responsibility, seek the necessary support from those in charge to support your section to act immediately.

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Coach, Leadership, Management

C for COMMUNICATION

eodera
November 1, 2017
#communication, #development #sporteanddev, #lifecoach, #pmp #lizodera1, #strategic, leadership

I sighed deeply. It was going to be yet another difficult morning, with endless complaints about the manner in which Flo treated the students and colleagues. I stepped out into the hallway and gasped at the long line of people trailing around the building and all the way to my door. “Anyone who does not have any story about Flo can come to the front of the line,” I said loudly. “For the rest of you, just know that I am meeting with her now, so just go back to your work or study. You will be contacted.”

I walked stepped back into my office, shut the door firmly, and turned to face an angry Flo. “You are too soft on them. They think that they can get past me with excuses, which they never will!” I looked at Flo calmly, and after a long stare into each other’s eyes, she glanced down. “Flo, help me understand this,” I asked quietly. ”Were you following the normal schedule while allocating work last week?”

“Of course!” exclaimed Flo defensively, “No more, no less!”.

“Flo, just hold on. You know that I left you in charge because I trust you to get work done well. Would you care to explain, then, why the complaints?” I asked quietly.

Flo looked down at her hands and said fretfully, “They don’t listen”.

“Don’t worry Flo,” I smiled, “Its just about communication, lets try and make it work.”

That morning, I gave Flo some important but very simple points to note, which I am sharing with you.

What is the information that you wish to communicate. Be clear about what the information is. Is it generalized, or could it be broken down into specifics that are easily taken up by individual members? Often team members may already know the basics, but need to understand clearly what their role is. This therefor means that you are able to see where the team is, and where you wish them to be. Now just stay on topic!
Why do you wish to communicate it: Its important that both you and the person you are communicating with understand the reason behind a desired action. This is when the overall picture should come into focus, and then each team member get more detailed information about why his or her input is required. An answer like. “because Madam said so” or “Because its your job” is often met with resistance.
To whom do you wish to communicate the information: When speaking to individuals, try to remember that people are not all the same. Much depends on their character and attitude. Since they are people you work with daily, you sometimes make assumptions about them that may not be true. Put on imaginary spectacles and really try to study and understand where each person is coming from, what are his/her outlook and culture, and therefore how he/she react to the information that you wish to share. Be an active listener, take time to understand the issues that your team member brings up, it will help you gauge how far he/she actually understood what you were communicating.
How do you wish to communicate it: try to stay on even ground, and ensure that what you are passing on is being understood clearly. Talk in a manner and language that can be understood, and be sure that you have put the steps together correctly, and not mixed up. If an argument ensues, try not to have the last word. Perhaps it’s not the right moment: give it a little time or simple change the focus to something of interest to the person and then get back to the subject again. And remember to thank each person!

It’s important at all times, that you speak in a calm manner. Flo is a fast speaker with a high voice that quickly shakes under pressure. I got her to practice speaking in an even tone, calmly and quietly. Then we worked on how to animate her voice, to encourage and energize. And most of all, to show staff that she appreciates their input.

Working with Flo was a joy, mainly because she loved her job, and all she needed to do is to focus on sharing her enthusiasm, rather that argue with other staff. I’m confident that Flo will make a great leader, as she builds her skills for communication.

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Leadership, Management

R for Risk Assessment

eodera
October 26, 2017
#development, #lifecoach, #lizodera1, #pmp, #risk, #sportanddev, #strategic, leadership, responsibility

“Pato is coming!” shouted Grace as she burst into the staff break room, where her colleagues were busy having lunch and chatting quietly. Everyone turned and stared at her mutely, then John asked idly, “Is this one of you jokes? April Fool Day was 4 months ago”, John remarked doubtfully.

“No, really, I’m serious this time.” Grace looked around and sighed. Just then Peter, the Project Manager, stepped into the room smiling, “It is true, we have been asked to host a special event, to honor Patrick’s return to our community.” The atmosphere in the room lightened visibly, and everyone was jubilating with a lot of fist pumping and hand slapping. Everyone knew Patrick Masimba: he was a local hero since he got signed up for a major team in the Premier League. Now every football player want to be “Pato” as he was affectionately called. Rumors had been flying around that he was coming into the country to visit his mother, whose home was in a town about 2 miles away.

“We are lucky we have been chosen to welcome him home,” Moses piped in, and everyone nodded. “He arrives in two days” said Peter, “How much can we do within that time?” John looked at his watch quickly and said. “If Peter can agree to extend our break for another half hour, we may be able to come up with a plan.” Peter nodded and stepped back and watched as someone pulled out a paper and pen and everyone settled down quickly to thinking. John said, “I will go to the Accountant and find out how much we are able to spend on this activity.”

Ten minutes later, John stepped back and watched sadly the animated voices that filled the room. They turn in unison and he cleared is throat. “I’m sorry guys, here is all that is available to budget for this.” And the placed a sheet of paper in the center of the table. “Oh no” cried Grace, as they all leaned in, “how are we expected to make this happen? The amount you are mentioning is not nearly enough’.

Well, said Amos, the M & E Officer pushing away the notes he had been taking, and reaching out for a plain sheet of paper. Why don’t we look at the pros and cons of hosting Pato, and the best possible solution? There is always a risk to actions; we just need to work out if it’s beneficial or not. Lets do a risk assessment!”

“What does that even mean?”, Grace impatiently asked. Is it one of your M & E tests?” and everyone laughed. “Actually”, John said, taking a seat at the table, “Amos is right, its just a simple way to ensure that we are not exposing ourselves and our organization to bad surprises. Do we all agree that this is a good surprise?” Everyone nodded. Okay, then here is a list of questions that you could ask yourselves before we decide if we can go ahead and host this homecoming event”, as he quickly jotted down some points.

Here is his list:

Outline your organizations vision and goals
Make a list of what your organization does.
Is the proposed event in line with your organization’s goals?
Figure out what could go wrong if you carried out this event. Is that likely or unlikely to happen?
How bad would that be for your organization?
If likely or costly, how can you make it less likely or less costly? Is that likely or unlikely to happen?
How good would the event be for your organization?
How can you make it more likely or more helpful for your organization?

Almost one hour later, everyone agreed that it made for sense to have another local organization whose mandate was a better fit, take over the main event, only providing a small portion of the program to lend focus to their organization’s activities.

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Leadership, Sport and Development

B for BOLD

eodera
October 18, 2017
#development #sporteanddev, #lifecoach, #pmp #lizodera1, accountability, leadership, responsibility

“Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.” —Winston Churchill

Amina knocked on the Director’s door with resolution, heard him call out and stepped into the room. She blinked in the sudden change from the sunlight corridor, and made a sudden gasp when she noticed that the room there were other people in the room. She recognized the local Chief and District Officer amongst them. The Project Director, Mr. Rishi, smiled at her, and turned to the guests at the table. “As you know, I make it a point to invite one stakeholder to our Board meetings to give us a chance to get some feedback on how well our organization is performing. This time, I have invited Amina, who is captain to one of our football teams”.

All eyes turned to Amina, and her hands shook as she pulled out a folded sheet of paper from her back pocket. She realized that she had to step up and be counted. She had to take a stand. It was going to be tough, especially if no one believed her. She cleared her throat, “I want to tell you a true story, about neglect and abuse of our football team. “ What she talked about was heart rending, and when it was over, there was shocked silence in the room.

She took a stand

Then Mr. Rishi turned to Douglas, the Head Coach, “Would you like to explain why you ignored when the girls reported all this to you two years ago?”

A visibly shaken Douglas, said “I was convinced that it was all a lie, a way to get attention.”

“I agree, growled Chief Omumbo. “These girls need to appreciate what is being done for them. All they do is gossip, trying to change the system!” The room fell silent for a moment, then the Mr. Rishi turned a questioning gesture to the Development Officer, Rukwaro, who spoke up, “I agree that the girls are expecting more attention, with the increase in funding”

“What would you like us to change, Amina?” interrupted the District Officer gruffly. Amina hesitated. “We want to choose our own coaches, and set our own rules”.

“I couldn’t agree more. It’s time we all trusted and supported the girls. We would like to apologize for what you had to go through. As Chairman of the Board, I would like to apologize for what happened.”

Amina smiled for the first time that day, and turned to the Mr. Rishi, who winked at her and said, “Thank you, Amina, you have helped us make an important decision today!”

This story explains a lot about how much we face a sport and development leaders. Every day, there are acts of courage, but also lack of it.

Searching through the story, you will come across many people who are bold:

Amina took a great chance, faced her fears, and spoke up for her team.

Mr. Rishi showed courage by giving her a chance to talk, He is genuine and authentic.

The District Officer was strong enough to apologize and promise to trust and support the team in making changes.

Do you display these acts of boldness:

delivering a report
volunteering as a mentor or youth group leader
stepping away from unhealthy friendships
resisting the temptation to lie
allowing others to be right
admitting mistakes
apologizing
keeping your word

On the other hand, you come across what does not represent boldness:

Douglas was defensive and unwilling to take responsibility.

Chief Omumbo is suspicious, and unwilling to change

Rukwaro probably knows what has been happening but does not want to rock the boat.

Ask yourself if at any time you have been involved in the following:

allowing others to make your decisions
being a bully or a passive bystander
gossiping and lying
running away from a mistake
placing too much reliance on the rules
remaining silent in the face of injustice and rationalizing lack of action
choosing sides after seeing which way the wind is blowing
breaking promises

Do you ever allow others to expose the weaknesses in your organization?

Are you ready to go the extra mile, to protect those you represent? Just remember, to be a leader you must be bold.

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Leadership

A for ACCOUNTABLE

eodera
October 12, 2017
#lifecoach, #pmp #lizodera1, accountability, responsibility

The Cambridge dictionary describes as “Someone who is accountable is completely responsible for what they do and must be able to give a satisfactory reason for it:”

Accountability is often seen as a “blame game”, rather than what it really should be: an active form of leverage, which enhances learning and performance. You must have come across this question often when things go wrong, “Who was responsible?”. We often use the two words “accountable” and “responsible” like they mean the same thing, yet that is not correct at all. In fact, being accountable is more about the presence of trust and absence of fear. It’s about accepting results, whether positive or negative, and learning.

Get involved in seeking solutions to problems

When things go wrong, acknowledge that mistakes were made and pledge to improve the outcome. This is very powerful: it means that you have taken ownership of the process, and you will engage your co-workers in playing their part, in making positive change. Remind them of the common vision that you all share and inspire them to take part. Then make sure that you actively seek feedback and involvement in solving problems.

Take responsibility for the good results. In this case, you need to be able to learn how this came about, and share this with your team, so that you can get positive reinforcement. Crediting other members of staff that ideas and actions came from should not make you feel threatened. In fact, it is the trait of a true leader.

Simple Steps To Becoming An Accountable Leader:

Assess yourself and your ability to be accountable in simple ways:

Are you keeping your own basic rules: arriving to work on time, submitting reports as required, for example? Draw up with a list; ask your co-workers what they think.
Do you insist that those working under you and your co-management are held accountable to their promises that they made to you and, by extension, the organization? This may be a simple action like updating field research records to the database, or attending meetings on time with prepared reports.

Set up a plan for make sure that all promises are kept, for example, you can put up a board in a shared space, that provides staff and other stakeholders with an opportunity to see the goals and tasks, how much has been achieved, and who has made this possible. Set realistic timelines for your team.
Change you dialogue: instead of just asking, “why did you not….” How about saying, “How could you improve on…”. This encourages the individual to realize that no one else will take on his/her work.

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